You don’t have time for mental health? Here’s what you must do…
I get it. You have very little time to scour the internet in search for a good therapist.
And no time at all to go every week to sit and talk with the counselor just to see if it works in the long term.
What if it doesn’t work?
What if it doesn’t help?
Maybe you’ve already been to therapy in the past, but you are still dealing with the same issues…
Stress, anxiety, depression, a midlife crisis…
This fear of therapy being ineffective is more common than your think.
Most of my clients have already tried many therapists and medications over the course of many years… and nothing seems to work.
That’s why my program to defeat anxiety and stress is results-oriented, and the reason why we follow a specific roadmap.
To uproot your anxiety and stress in weeks, not years as it is so common nowadays.
Because there’s nothing worse than wasting years of your life in something that won’t give you peace of mind.
All that time, effort and money just to be back at square 1… it’s very disheartening.
But what if things were different?
MAKE THERAPY WORK FOR YOU
What if you could make therapy work for you, and not just attend what I have come to call “hope therapy”?
You know, when you go to therapy just hoping it will work…
… only to see years later that hope accomplished nothing.
Imagine if, instead, you could get fast, concrete results in your mental and emotional stability.
That with every session, you could see progress reflected in your life.
As I outlined in my mini-guide to find the right therapist, you must first make therapy easy for you.
Complications will only make it harder for you to follow through and make real progress.
But above everything else, we must start seeing therapy in a very different light.
If you follow the steps outlined in this mini-guide, you will make the most effective use of therapy.
And you will achieve results fast. Let’s get to it…
We have been conditioned to believe that mental health is something others will provide us.
Have you ever thought about this?
We have been conditioned to believe that it is other people who must take care of our mental health.
That the therapist will handle it.
As if mental health was one more thing we could delegate and expect results.
And that is the very reason why therapy is not always effective. Because we don’t think about mental health in clear, concrete terms.
First, because no one has taught you how to do this. (Don’t worry, I will teach you… )
But also, because we have been conditioned to believe that we can do nothing.
That only a therapist can help you with your mental health…
When, in reality it is exactly the other way around!
All therapists do, is to provide guidance, but we must make the progress ourselves.
If we want therapy to be effective, we must then put our mental health in concrete terms.
And to play an active role in therapy.
BEGINNING, MIDDLE AND END
So, in order for you to take advantage of therapy and to make it as effective as possible, you must understand what you are going through, and where you want to be.
A starting point, milestones and a destination.
Going from A to D; through B and C, of course.
This is why my programs are results-oriented, with clear and concrete goals in terms of your mental health.
Because I don’t believe in hope therapy.
Instead, I believe we all deserve to have precious peace of mind on-command.
And if you want therapy to be effective you must take the same approach.
So, how can we put mental health in clear and concise terms?
It’s mental health we’re talking about, not a physical, countable object.
How do we “increase” our levels of mental health while “decreasing our levels” of mental illness?
How can we assign “numbers” to mental health? How can we measure it and keep track of it?
How do we know we are making progress, and what to attack specifically?
It depends on your specific case, of course. But you still need to ask yourself the same questions…
First of all: What manifestation of stress or anxiety or depression is the one you are dealing with the most?
YOUR SYMPTOMS ARE YOUR GUIDE
What would you say is the worst part of suffering anxiety or depression?
Think about this: How do you feel stress in your life?
How does depression affect you?
How does anxiety manifest in your life?
Is it irritability? Inability to concentrate? Constant worry?
Do you feel disconnected from the world around you because of the stress you are going through?
Is it insomnia instead? Nightmares?
Do you get stomachaches? Headaches, perhaps?
Do you get lost in your own what-if thinking?
Or is it intrusive thoughts you are dealing with?
Those will be the specific “things” you will attack in therapy.
Now we can start measuring.
Make a list of every undesirable thing that anxiety or depression is bringing to your life.
Maybe there is not a term for every symptom you suffer, but write them down anyways.
Write the sensations, describe the discomfort, describe your suffering.
You will see that these are no longer ambiguous. They are specific symptoms to deal with.
You see how powerful this is? You see where we’re going?
Now you have your stress / anxiety / depression in concrete terms!
Countable ways to measure concrete progress.
“Things” we need to get rid of.
Things that, once defeated, will effectively make your life much better.
But wait, that’s not all. We also need a unified definition of mental health.
A DEFINITION OF MENTAL HEALTH
Because we still need to know our “destination”.
The symptoms and manifestations you describe are the milestones along the way.
But we still need the ultimate goal of therapy.
If we only attack the symptoms, we are not really attacking the core problem.
And therefore, those symptoms can (and will) only end up manifesting differently later in life.
Most likely, with more intensity.
But we still need to know how to achieve permanent progress.
A way to know that stress has been conquered, anxiety uprooted or depression defeated.
Sounds complex, I know. But it doesn’t need to be.
Let’s be practical and give a simple answer to a complex problem.
Something we all can agree upon, something simple enough so we know we can attain it.
And what would that be? Pay close attention…
YOUR GOAL IN MENTAL HEALTH
I would say that the mark of a healthy mind is stability.
Would you agree?
I think it’s something simple, something we can all agree upon.
Thoughts always under control, with nothing taking up too much mental space or time or attention…
Because that’s when mental illness arises.
Instead, we must acquire an ability to cease thoughts on command.
Think about this: if you were able to have total control over your thoughts, how would your mental health evolve?
But I know it’s not all rational. Mental illness is not only a matter of thoughts.
Emotions are often the problem too.
So, our definition of mental health must include emotions.
Mental health must also mean emotions under control.
And never overpowering us.
Wouldn’t it be neat if you could live like this?
I believe this can be our “destination”. Our goal in therapy.
The place where we are aiming to get to.
Two ‘simple’, but definite goals:
Stable thoughts. Emotions under control.
That’s all we need to establish for now.
Think about therapy in these terms.
And ask yourself: What would be complete mental health for me?
What would progress look like if you were to undergo therapy?
Now you have an answer.
Write that down too, along with the symptoms you need to get rid of, and the definition of mental health.
Now you can “measure” it, and therefore, you can achieve it.
This is how you can make therapy work faster, and to your advantage.
Do you realize now how little attention we have paid to this?
And how these two simple exercises will boost your therapy results?
Most of my clients come from years of ineffective therapy, and multiple therapists that simply didn’t give them any results.
Many of them even medicated, but still no results at all.
That’s a big problem with most therapies, because not only we approach them with the wrong mindset…
But they also have no proper structure or path to recovery.
And to top it all off, they don’t address the root cause of mental illness.
That’s why my programs follow a specific structure and are results-oriented.
To give you palpable and concrete results in your mental health.
To give you a roadmap to a prefect mind and complete mental health.
To help you defeat anxiety.
To conquer stress.
To uproot depression.
Not in years of ineffective hope therapy, but in weeks and with permanent results.
This leads me to the importance of seeking permanent results and not just temporary relief.
But I will leave that for part two.
This is already long enough and I want you to focus on the two lessons I just taught you:
TWO SIMPLE LESSONS TO MAKE THERAPY FASTER
First, take the time to describe all of your symptoms in detail, as well as all the manifestations of stress, anxiety, depression and so on.
And second: Create your definition of mental health, as it is our destination in therapy.
And feel free to borrow the definition I gave you above.
Thoughts under control. Stable emotions.
Being able to summon peace of mind-on command.
In fact, this is the exact approach we take in my one-on-one program.
I created this approach to give everybody a chance to attain a perfect mind, and complete mental health.
Do this, and you will recover way faster.
This will give you more control over your mental health.
And I honestly believe we all have the right to be mentally healthy.
Thank you for reading, and please let me know if you have any questions.
Defeating mental illness is possible.
It’s just a matter or learning how to do it.
May you gather the strength and wisdom necessary to attain complete mental health.
Creator of the Transcendental Mindfulness Therapy.
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